Accompaniment

Very few people come to us because they allready well!

Most of the persons have problems... money problems, health problems, professional problems, emotional or relational problems.

These problems prevent them from being happy... in any case, that's what they think!

In fact, if you knew in what a point it is easy to become happy and to be well!!!

If we told to you what it is all about and how to handle things from now on to go better and better, for an unexplained reason, it will not work. To ask you to make the usual obstacle course, which means many years of personal development and therapy, will not be convenient for you either, I imagine...

So we concocted you a process, relatively short in time, of which we removed all the superfluous! This process or protocol already shows its efficiency since the year 2000 and that with a astonishing result.

Even better... everybody who goes up to the end of this procedure succeeds. Without exception!

We have only one goal: Well-being!

Our framework?

First of all our meetings, then the missions which you we shall propose throughout the process; reading, view films, behavioral exercises, etc. Then collective activities (optional ofcourse); themedays, retreats, etc. And finally a continuous presence in the form of a forum attached to this site.

To advance quickly and efficiently, the consultations are concentrated on what I call "a profound work". At the beginning, when we meet, we shall speak ofcourse about what you live and about your difficulties, but as soon as possible, we shall put aside the daily problems to build a new "reference framework" allowing you to understand better what you are living already.

There are several ways to have an appointment:

• face to face outside, in a park, the seashore or on a terrace of a restaurant or a coffee shop
• through Skype or telephone

The sessions last between 1 hour and 1 hour 20 minuetes.

If you prefer to follow the process described below in a group, you can completely "compose" your "pack of well-being" with the choice of theme days we propose you on the page "Activities".

The process

There are four steps in the process...

In the first stage, we are going to decrease your reactivity, your way of reacting on what happens to you. To understand better how we are going to do this, here's a small story:

" Imagine two men…
They are identical. Twin brothers, if you want, married to two twin sisters, having had the same education…
One of these two men believes in god and the other one does not believe in him (do not worry, it is not about god, it is only for the story).
Then, can you imagine in a stereo-typical way the difference between these two men?
The first one, who believes in god, maybe goes once a week to the church, to the synagogue or to the mosque. He can be pious, take party of charities, have good ethics, be sober. He is faithful maybe but maybe he is also strict. Somebody on whom we can count but whom we are not inevitably going to look for to enjoy ourselves…
The other one maybe lives with the slogan "after me the floods", follows more his own envy, maybe cheats a little with his wife or her colleagues from work. Maybe we can less count on him, but we he have fun with him…
No matter the details, they are unpredictable and it is only for the example. But the difference of life between both, where does it come from?
We agree that it does not come because god exists or not. They know nothing about it! The difference comes because one BELIEVES that god exists and the other one does not believe in it. The difference of believe is going to make, for example, that sitting together a restaurant, when a mute and dum girl comes by to sell lighters, or a man to sell roses (this happens a lot in the south of France), the first one is maybe going to buy because it is necessary to help his fellow man and the other one won't, because he just doesn't need it."

The belief makes the difference in the choice!

The snag is that we don't have just one belief, but plenty. So we have ideas about god, if he exists where he is and if he does not exist, where does everything we see comes from... We have ideas on ourselves, many even, then on our parents, on men and women, good and evil, Jews, Moslems, Catholics, sexuality, Talibans, blacks, yellow, red, the sense or nonsense of life, homosexuals, homeless, unmarried mothers, etc. We have ideas on everything, absolutely everything!

We call this a belief system.

The result is, that we think having the choice, but in fact, thanks to or because of this system, by some sort of ultrafast internal mechanism, we make a kind of negative selection, what makes us choose systematically the same way in the same situations.

To change ones life, it is needed to choose otherwise… To choose otherwise, it is necessary to think otherwise!

It is not for nothing that we say to somebody who is not well to go and change his mind!

And what do people do? They go on holiday. But that's not "to change one's mind". To change ones ideas means that you might have thought befor,e for example, that the men were superior to women and that now you change your way of thinking and you consider men and women equal!

So it's a question of changing the way one thinks. But where do our thoughts, our beliefs come from?

That's simple! From our education and from our traumatisms...

That's why to decrease your reactivity, your reflexes in front of attacks or irritations, we are going to begin on one hand to study our wounds and our conditioning, and on the other hand we are going to help you to look at things otherwise. To think otherwise allows to choose otherwise, and then to have another life!

Our only liberty is exactly our liberty to choose our thoughts!!!

To understand our wounds and conditioning better, we propose you to read a bestseller.

While you read and the study we do around this book, we will propose other books to get deeper into certain important aspects of personal development, films but most of all behaviour tools, simple to use, so we will lower our reactivity at least half the way. We will also talk philosophie...

Once your reactivity decreased, you will have understood that all that live today comes in a certain way from your parents. Attention, it is not a question of making them responsible for what you live today, but simply to understand that in the logic of your history, they were your first marks and educators.

So, to free oneself of it, we are going to begin the second step, a protocol of liberation, or mourning if you prefer. In only some sessions you definitively will make peace with your history.

The result?

You will have no conflict anymore with anybody!!! Oh yes, it is possible and even easy...

When we do not have to take care any more of our conflicts nor our emotions, we can finally take care of our reality, which makes us enter the third step of the process.

In this step, we deepen one of the tools in particular, so that you became completely independent, of us or any other person. If a problem persists, we take charge of it in this stage. Then, we study how to become a master of his life... and we will take care of your dream to realize! To finish, we see what you understood and quietly we shall space out the sessions.

The fourth step consists in deepening, in assimilating and in strengthening all that you understood… You will develop your new knowledge by accompanying in your turn some friends. You will do our work in a way.

The first three steps are only done individually for the moment, face to face, by telephone or by skype. Very soon you can assist a workshop in dutch where the 3 first steps will be treated in about a week.

The fourth step is done groupwise in the form of a deepening cycle …

Naturally, you can stop whenever you wish but as long as you continue, we shall be stand by your side!

To facilitate your progress, we propose several tools:

1. The first one are theme days. By participating you already have a whole day to share your questioning thanks to our original propositions, then you will meet people like you, who ask themselves the same questions or who have already well advanced or succeeded in the same process.
2. Then, there is a forum attached to this website where you can join free of charge and share your questions, your doubts, your good or bad temper and your successes with others. Nothing more cool that to advance together…

You want more details about the deepening process?

I (Michaël) propose a deepening process to those who:

choose to prepare themselves for the activity of Life Consultant
accompany already and wish to increase their quality
want to deepen notions concerning well-being.

This deepening process in NOT an official training but complementary to one and allows those who accompany to:

find a position as right as possible towards those they accompany...
develop and refine their perception and their sensibility...
dicrease as much as possible the margin of error in their diagnoses...

Naturally, those who choose to do the deepening process without the intention to accompany will have the profit of their experience in their everyday life.

To be able to participate on this cycle it is required in having ended the major part of the process of the individual accompaniment. Exceptionally, it is however possible for certain persons to participate in this cycle without having completely ended the process described above and to finish it at the same time.

The Deepening Cycle takes place only in France and in french for the moment on a rhythm of one Sunday a month. The program, treating different aspects of the Accompaniment, is that way distributed over 12 days from 9 am till 6 pm.

You will find the dates for the coming cycle in the program on the homepage.

Some precisions concerning the cycle...

There is no particular commitment obliging the participant to finish the cycle. He can stop when he wishes. On the other hand he cannot start or resume the "train on the way".

Dates are fixed. When somebody misses a session, he will catch up with another participant. This becomes an opportunity furthermore for the others to train and to assert their knowledge.

Every participant will choose 1, 2 or 3 voluntary persons in his circle of acquaintances which he will accompany free of charge from November during the period of the cycle. Every Sunday of the cycle serves to prepare the participant for the sessions he will have with his volunteers.

Approximately 3 weeks before the first session, each participant will receive the missions concerning the subjects to prepare.

At the end of every Sunday, the subjects to be prepared for the following session will be announced on the forum which will have been conceived specially for that purpose.

Each participant will prepare the subjects in order to teach them to the others. The subjects will be treated from the questions everybody has.

Each day is divided in 3 parts: the morning is reserved for the new subjects, after lunch we will treat the feed-back concerning each ones consultations and we will take time for the various questions, after the afternoon break we will exercise ourselves with the projection, our intuition and common sens.

There is no diploma at the end of the cycle. The deepening process is not an official training… Each one will use what he will have learnt according to his responsibility and his suitability.

To support the candidates in the deepening proces, a forum on this site will be provided and a work group will be established.

An everyday assistance or a supervision...

I (Michaël) propose an everyday assistance or supervision to those:

• who already are accompanied but want or need a small help besides once in a while...
• who do not want to follow the process described above but want only punctually an advice or a support...
• who completely ended the process of accompaniment and wish in the term of this some information or advice from time to time...
• and to those who are professional in the accompaniment (therapists, masseurs, etc.) and choose to be assisted in their practice to improve the quality of their care...

This "technical support" or "super vision" is done by telephone and it is proposed in the form of "crédit time", which is a fixed price per hour which we deduct as one goes along.

When needed you will be able to contact me without having made an appointment and I will call back you as soon as possible so that together we clarify and found a solution or a way out concerning a situation which needs attention.